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How to Talk to Girls
Guide to Gaining Confidence
One of the keys of learning how to talk to
girls is establishing a "winner's confidence" when approaching
girls. There is definitely a "winning" way
to approach and talk to girls and I want to touch on that
mentality. The winner has a light switch
mentality. They don't hover around girls, they don't go back and
forth debating whether or not they should or shouldn't approach.
They either do or do not. No hamletting around. I teach a lot of
pick up bootcamps for guys who want to learn how to talk to girls,
and I'll frequently tell guys they're hamletting when they hover
around the girls because they're trying to decide. Don't hover, go
right in, it makes you look more confident; it will be easier and
you'll get that rush of emotion. Once you handle that, it should be
a lot easier to go up and just talk to girls. The more you
let things build up, the more that approach anxiety actually becomes
a choice. By not going in right away and talking to the girl, you're
actually choosing to have approach anxiety. So make the choice to
not have approach anxiety and go right in and talk to her.
Another thing winners with girls think about, is they
see talking to girls as a fun process. They don't view it as work;
they don't view it as something that is hard. They don't view the
girls as bitchy. The whole process is fun. It's just a fun thing
they do. They're excited to go talk to girls, they like
talking to people; they're social, fun, positive people. That's a
big thing. You have to find some sort of joy in this process. If you
don't like doing to clubs, try to focus on daytime approaching. If
you don't like approaching during the day and you like going out and
getting drunk and going to clubs, go out at night. If you like
meeting strippers, go to strip clubs, but you have to find things
that you like in order to make the process of approaching a talking
to girls as easy as possible, because if you hate the places you're
at, and you have approach anxiety, it's going to be really, really
hard to talk to anyone, let alone attractive girls. But if you like
where you're at and you have approach anxiety, then we can work with
that. If you really want to master the issue
of how to talk to girls, learning to conquer your approach
anxiety is the first step. |
