Learn From My
Mistakes The Conclusion
Welcome back to the last part of the first Learn From My Mistakes feature in
the newsletter. Next week I'll be breaking down a success I had in Las Vegas
that went from meet to lay in 6 minutes.
But before we get to that, when we last left off Miss Newsie Hat had just
turned up at my place and we headed upstairs to "get my wallet." I grabbed
the wallet and I brought her to my favorite bar in Dallas. We grabbed a seat
in the corner and I made sure that she was seated next to me as opposed to
across from me. This is a crucial part of escalation on dates. You can't
escalate across a table.
The conversation was great and sexually charged. Here's where I made my
first mistake. This is actually something I do quite frequently when my game
goes wrong. I got too caught up in how much fun I was having and I missed
the opportunity to take her back to my place.
Next to us was a loud obnoxious group of Dallasites. As MNH was coming back
from the bathroom, the girls started saying something obnoxious. Finally one
of them told her to go masturbate. We then decided to move. The move put us
into a booth, but I made sure we sat on the same side. Here's where I made
my next mistake.
I mismanaged the clock. She had told me earlier that she had to take her mom
to the airport the next morning. I didn't suggest going back to my place
until around 12:45. Because I waited too long, she had to think about it,
and I encountered some resistance to the suggestion. She told me she
couldn't, so I responded by saying she could only stay for 1 episode. And
would be home by 1:30. I always want to hold back the false time constraint
to use it to overcome objections.
On the walk to my apartment, I pushed her against the wall in the elevator
and made out with her. As soon as the door opened, I walked away... I always
do this. It's just a really good way to start arousal and sexual teasing. I
always want to leave the girl wanting a little more. This creates room for
escalation. I imagine it's like being a coquette. A tease. I control the
level of escalation until the girl asks for more.
I make sure to take my time putting on an episode of It's Always Sunny. Then
I sit a fair distance away from her. I always want to test to see how much
she wants to touch. She moves closer to me and we start making out more. I
start going up her shirt and she stops me. She tells me I'm just like every
other guy... I tell her I've made no secret of the fact I want to fuck her,
but if she's uncomfortable we should just stop. Here's another mistake. I
forgot to inoculate last minute resistance. I have a whole theme I talk
about that explains LMR in a really clever way. I didn't do this because, I
was having too much fun. It also means that I didn't do enough
qualification. I did a lot of telling her she's cute and adorable and sexy,
but the rest of my compliments were generic. I was really attracted to this
girl because I felt like she was very innocent yet naughty... It's a hot
combination, and I let it throw me off. You always need solid reasons you
like her besides her looks.
Finally she decides to leave and I go for one last chance. This is something
that I DON"T recommend for most guys. It's very dominant and aggressive and
can definitely backfire if it's done the wrong way. You also have to be
super cognizant about the girl's reaction. If she's not into it , STOP
immediately. What I did was grab her very firmly by the wrist, push her
against the wall hard and pinned her arms behind her back while kissing her.
Then I physically lifted her up and brought her into the bedroom, where we
fooled around and I could not get past the panties.
Overall I made a couple of different mistakes in a few key areas. The first
one was timing. There is a rhythm to social interactions, especially when it
comes to escalation. I should have built less sexual tension and spent more
time pushing forward. The second mistake was mismanaging the clock. I should
have remembered what she had said earlier and gotten her back to my place
before midnight. And lastly I had an uneven pacing to my escalation. It was
unpredictable but did not have an overall upward arching trend. It also
mixed a lot of different sexual fantasies with the dominance and tenderness
at different times.
None of these were fatal errors though and she did end up spending the
night, I just realized it wasn't gonna happen tonight. Once you get the
feeling it's not going to happen, just stop. Because all you're going to do
if you keep pushing it is freak her out. Then she'll stop returning calls
and texts. Trust me I've probably lost girls in bed over 100 times. Don't do
"freezeouts", actually stop and just cuddle her. Oftentimes you'll have sex
with her in the morning.
I texted her the next day but I was heading out to Vegas for the first
bootcamp of 12 Months to Mastery. Things have escalated nicely on the phone
and she's planning to pick me up at the airport when I get home Monday. I'll
post about what happens on our second date next week sometime.
Talk to you guys soon,
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