Reviews - Real Social Dynamics

Real Social Dynamics is a pick up company run by Tyler Durden of “The Game” fame. In addition to being one of Sinn’s mentors and one of the biggest influences on his game, Tyler has produced much of the pickup theory we take for granted today. RSD has been among the leaders in the switch from rehearsed to natural game. Sinn personally recommends learning from Tyler, Jeffy or Tim.

The Flawless Natural DVD set.

This review is about Tim from RSD's program " The Flawless Natural". Ever since I watched Tim's presentation on Transformations, I'd been fascinated by how much he'd changed. I had first met Tim in Montreal, in 2005, and didn't really think too much of him, especially after he put out a series of day game videos with Hoobie… Then I saw Transformations and was like, "Holy fuck! Who is this guy?!" I couldn't explain the difference with anything other than super vague words like “mojo”. Furthermore, once I started hanging out with Moxie I got to hear tales of the glory of Tim... So I was super excited to see his method!

Tim's method was broken down into three main parts:

The Flawless Mindset
The Flawless Method
The Flawless Ecosystem

And then further the Flawless Method breaks down into 5 parts:

1. Woo- Or Being " In state"

2. Spontaneous Lovestriking

3. The Bubble of Love

4. Rhythm 10 to 2

5. Harmony Win/Win

I'll get into all of that stuff as we get into the review. To me the most interesting part of the program was NOT what Tim was actually teaching as much as the glimpse into the inner world of Timness, as Moxie and I have been calling it. I thought the most valuable part of the program was when Tim would mention the inner dialogue that goes on in his head either before approaching, or after getting blownout etc. It's also fascinating to see the ways that Tim has waterproofed his reality from negativity and anything that doesn't directly help his success with women and in life.

The first disc is all about introducing TFN method. The Flawless Natural is based on the idea that men and women have equal value. This is something I teach as well because the truth of the matter is that you NEVER know how a woman will respond to you, until you've approached her. Next, Tim talks about the idea of permission. This is key, as society does NOT give you permission to have an abundant sex life or to approach women whenever you want! So you have to give yourself permission. Or you can come take a bootcamp with me and I'll give it to ya :) The disc wraps up with an explanation of the concept of WOOO!!! Wooo is defined as that glowing feeling inside (A.K.A being happy, in the moment, in state, whatever you want to call it). Tim's take, however, is pretty different as he focuses on the physical GATEWAYS to STATE. The idea being that, if you act like you are happy, enthusiastic, etc... Your body will biofeedback and you will actually become happy, enthusiastic, in state etc = WOOO! The disc ends with the simple, but powerful statement that we can put ourselves in a good state when we want to be.

Disc number two starts off with the introduction of the concept that your mind is like a radio tuner. Tim introduces a lot of metaphors for the mind throughout the program that offer a unique insight into how he has built his mindset. This radio tuner example merely means that you have a choice between what part of your mind you are tuned into. Wooo is the highest state, and Yuck is the lowest. Tim introduces a few rules to get into state, ranging from having a WOO ritual, to approaching the first girl you see as soon as you get out. Tim then introduces a concept that I came to independently - the idea being the only thing that's important when approaching women…

"How can I make this fun?"

But more importantly, (and a distinction Tim made, that I hadn't thought about) is “how can I make this fun… for ME?” Because if you're having fun, it goes to reason that the girl will be as well! The next great concept was the idea of being a player, not a spectator. I think about this like the concept of inertia. The idea being that: objects in motion, remain in motion, while objects at rest remain at rest. The more you're out in the club bouncing around, opening girls, dancing, etc. - the easier it is to approach because you don't have to keep starting from 0, every time you approach. This is a HUGE key to the entire game as most students I know spend WAY too much time standing around, checking cell phones, getting drinks etc... Tim spends a lot of time in the course talking about how to be authentic and come from your core. Your core being the place that biologically tells you that women, were put here for you, and that it’s ok to be sexually attracted to them. He also introduces his inner dialogue before approaching. This was one of the biggest pieces for me in implementing this stuff. Looking at a girl you want to approach and telling yourself, " Yes, this is for me" really does change the feelings in your body that start to fire as you begin thinking about approaching (the usual thoughts being described by Tim as a million reasons why you suck).

Tim says it takes about twenty minutes of being in state to lock it in for the night. I'd have to agree with that. I'm not sure how long it takes, but you need to be in set as much as possible until you're in state. Then it's locked in for the night and the approach anxiety turns off.

Another interesting point about TFM was the way Tim uses words like, full, deluxe, chill etc. It's interesting because it's Tim's unique way of keeping his enthusiasm and positivity up. I'm sure he's aware of this, but it's a good thing for everyone to do. You don't have to call everything full, chill deluxe, pimpness... but the vocabulary you use, defines the system you’re working with. So by naming things to make them cooler, you define your entire environment and can program your reticular activation system to constantly reaffirm how cool you are!

Tim then shares a few ways to get into that Wooo state. My favorite was singing! This is something I do as well, but instead of singing about owning the club, I sing about loving vodka, or I sing everything in an R Kelly, Trapped in the Closet-esque monologue . My favorite quote of the program comes on this disc is when Tim says, "I've been reading about Zen a little bit, you know Zen..." and then starts to talk about what to focus on when you're about to approach a girl. I already touched on that stuff earlier, but basically focusing on how you want her instead of any obstacles around or reasons not to approach.

He also talks a bit about masculine versus feminine energy. Masculine energy being composed of being a leader, being dominant, stepping up etc., feminine energy being more fluid, loving and nurturing. The best part of this section was when he said that women need certainty! This is a huge concept and was touched upon in, The Way of the Superior Man, when David Deida suggests that men have to be a rock in the storm of a woman's emotions. This is the core of being unreactive. If you are certain in your positive reality (i.e. this girl likes me, I want her, etc), women will fall in line with that. Remember there can only be one underlying meaning of the interaction, and women have very malleable frames. Another great Tim quote is where he says something about the dark ages, fighting Tigers and shit. More Tim vocabulary: " Owning it", "Stepping up", " Cherish".

The next section is on intent and communicating congruently. Tim reminds us that intent is to be felt. This is similar to the idea of being a sexual threat. In fact, Tim describes it as the girl being in imminent danger of being shagged behind the dumpster. The idea behind intent is that you are demonstrating that the way you approach is the way you operate in life. Meaning that you are the type of man who goes after what he wants and expects to get it.

Disc # 3 begins with the introduction of the fury as a concept. One of the most fascinating things with Tim is how he's able to take concepts like anger, blowouts, blown pulls, etc., and turn them into motivation that remains positive. Even this concept of the fury is used to build intent. The inner dialogue for the fury goes something like "No! Something HAS to go down tonight!" Even more important than that though, was the idea of reframing girls rejecting you as weird. Tim describes failing to stop a girl and then his inner dialogue going, "How weird is that?! She's not stopping?!" This is huge! I always act like its weird when the girls aren't into me. Because it is, I'm awesome! That's a huge piece of the puzzle.

"I am prepared to go in when others are not."

This refers to priding yourself on approaching the hottest girls and "hardest" sets. This is another masculine concept. The idea of challenging and pushing yourself is one of the most important factors to our growth as people, and not looking at game this way is guaranteeing you to not experience the best levels of success. Tim recommends that when you go into the harder set, you enter at a higher frequency to force them into spectator mode. We then get a reminder of Tim's number one rule of pick up - Do Not Give A Fuck What Anybody In The World Thinks About You - before we get a few tips on openers (mainly that they should come from your core).

Tim's openers were all fairly simple and straight forward running the gamut from "Hey, I'm Tim" to "I need a date tonight"… But he does reveal another piece of his inner dialogue while approaching, as he talks about how he tells himself, "She will be mine". The best part of his segment on opening was when he talked about using these openers on groups and getting group approval early on by asking the group if they're ok with you meeting their friend. This is hugely effective and something that many people overlook. He discusses approaching mixed groups and recommends that you amend the openers to be direct to the group as opposed to direct to the girl. He talks about stating your intention to meet a specific girl early on even in mixed sets.

Another highlight of the program for me was the idea of reframing obstacles as cheerleaders. Instead of looking at a group and identifying AMOGs, and cockblocks, you see only cheerleaders to your success. I've been seeing a huge benefit from this technique in terms of motivating myself to go straight into sets, that in other times, I would have tried to merge into with social proof or whatever. Once you see everyone as cheerleaders, there's no problem with approaching anywhere because your cheerleaders will help you.

Tim's dance floor game was the next part of the program. As any readers of my blog know I don't dance I have seizures to music. I did find this part interesting though, just not my thang...

Masculine dominance is a major theme throughout the program and Tim reminds us that you need to have 100% belief that's she's going to love you, whatever you do! We get another funny Tim word as he introduces the concept of “savage” as he tells his Russian fury story. The high points of that story were more internal dialogue stuff as when Tim saw this particular girl he said "This is for me" and when she isolated herself onto a couch he said "this is my time". Both are great thoughts pre-approach.

It wouldn't be an RSD product without some mention of vocal tonality and the trying for rapport, neutral to rapport, and breaking rapport - tonality chart. Tim adds a new one an expression range which is a simple way of saying that guys who aren't expressive will have problems differentiating between the rapport levels. I say they will too unless they ya know become more expressive...

My notes don't say it but I'm pretty sure Disc 4 began somewhere around here, with the concept of getting physical. Tim differentiates between the “purposeless hand of doom” and the “purposeful hand of desire”, (basically make sure you touch girls for a reason and don't use limp or loose touching). Tim shares some stories of students having escalation problems, and he recommends that if you have trouble escalating, that you spend about 40% of your time looking at the girls lips and thinking, “Yes… I want this!" We also get one of the best lines of the program when Tim introduces the phrase "It's you and I tonight!" I've been using this in my last couple of SNLs and it's another example of secret society code which sounds innocent on one hand but basically means, "wanna fuck?"

We're introduced to the claw again which is a fun, Tim-esque way of describing grabbing girls (a la the guys who stand by the bathrooms). I was very anti claw until I saw my buddy Trance use it. He didn't even know about RSD but it felt more comfortable to him. I have subsequently used the claw quite a bit and I find it not only a great way to get into state but a fairly successful way to open with escalation. Tim also describes the "Praying Mantis claw", where you pick the girl up. My favorite little snippet from the physical stuff, was the “key-lock of glory”, where you grab a girl's hand, and lock both of your hands behind her back. I do something very similar but I usually get a high five first, and then twist the arm down. I like the aggressiveness of the straight grab. It's more risky but the rewards are higher as well. The section ends poorly as Tim draws a whole graph to say that it's weird to wait to touch girls. My only complaint with Tim's speaking style is that he sometimes takes awhile to state a concept that could be explained in a sentence.

My favorite part of the entire program was when he introduced the concept of, “the bubble of love”. These are basically extended role plays that envision the two of you together. These define the roles both of you guys will play in the interaction and it is what's actually talked about by the girl and the guy in TFN. Tim gives away some gold stuff here, ranging from the ever popular, “we're married bubble” to “the girl is trouble bubble”. He even mentions what he calls one word bubbles which are relationship-type-names, like “dearest”, “honey”, etc. The problem with some of the bubbles is falling into the aptly named, "cherish box of doom". Again, a great name to describe treating the girl like she's going to be your girlfriend… This turns OFF much of the sexual tension. Moxie and I were discussing the program and he thought a great rule was the idea of not entertaining the idea of a relationship pre sex. I do this naturally because I don't do relationships. But it is a good rule as it will keep you from getting too invested in any one girl. Good catch Moxie!

Focus on having fun and being in the moment. Tim has a whole little routine where he tells girls he's not there for “lovey dovey cherishing sex.” He's there for real sex, fun and adventure. The idea of keeping bubbles alive was addressed as well. The ways were, “The Pounding of Passion” and “The Pinball of Positivity”. The Pinball of Positivity is basically redirecting the conversation, where you want it to go using either, “wait, wait, wait…” or “Ok, cool. Anyway...”

The Pounding of Passion is a routine where you ask the girl 5 random questions and then tell her the two of you can be together. It's Tim's way of qualifying a girl. A lot of the qualification in this method is simply the girl realizing that you like and want her, for her. This can be accomplished by running 5 bait hook reel releases, or as Tim does, through mastering your sub communications. The Pounding of Passion is the gateway into the bubble. The only thing I disagreed with in the section on bubbles was when Tim said that you should only use “you and me” bubbles. I have an uncanny knack for getting girls into play fighting bubbles where we bust and challenge each other all night, and as long as they aren't genuinely antagonistic, they become foreplay! I think there's a huge amount of sexual power in challenging women and them responding to the challenges. Remember romance novels… The basic premise of every romance novel is the heroine's triumph over a strong man. If a woman feels she can win you back over with her sexuality, she will. But you and me bubbles work just as well. Net theory is another great shift in thinking. It's the concept of viewing your mind like a net. That means anything you don't want to focus on, just goes right through the net.

Disc 4 wraps up with Tim explaining some different things that happen in field and what they mean:

Poofing for no reason- The girls just walk away. This means you are not connected to your intent. You don't know WHY you're approaching. Or that you had bad body language or style IMO...

Setting roles - Make sure that you put yourself and her together by saying something like, “you and I would make a good X”

Chode hope - The idea that if you don't do anything maybe it will work out the way you want it to. This is a huge sticking point in most students.

Disc 5 begins with the rhythm that takes place from 10pm till 2am. With TFN you can accomplish your first three objectives (Woo, Spontaneous lovestriking, and bubbles) in 5 seconds so you have to balance out the rest of the time as girls aren't ready to be pulled at 10PM. This is where you want to balance your woo and intent, then shift to more intent later in the evening. You can even do takeaways while saying "it's you and me tonight". A great point is made when Tim reminds students to be comfortable with the silence. Something most beginners take awhile to figure out.

Harmony - Win/win. This refers to the ideal dynamic with a new girl where she wants you as much as you want her. That way both of you guys win. She gets a champ and you get a honey to use Timlish. The inner dialogue for this while being tested is, "I'm trying to help you win". You have to step up when it gets hard. Tim uses a great analogy with a house builder about how when one wall falls down, the house builder doesn't just abandon the house. The girl wins when she sees you can persevere.

The Flawless Ecosystem - Making your world into a woman generator. Tim gives some phone game stuff away here. Its average and nothing that most people in the community haven't seen before. It is cool that he shares an actual text exchange though. The ecosystem has rules. You must pick the characteristics of things that you allow into your reality. For me they have to be fun, challenging, rewarding, and hassle free.

The program wraps up with some stuff on becoming a regular at places, and there is a brief synopsis over the entire program.

Overall I really enjoyed this program. On my first viewing I thought that there wasn't a ton of different content from the video blog Tim did. But on re-watching it, I caught sooo much new stuff and so much of the process behind the Tim mystique. I wouldn't recommend this program for any brand new students or guys who have issues with being submissive, supplicating etc. But if you're a normal guy who doesn't have any major issues except knowing what to do around women, I can't recommend this program highly enough! The simplicity and positivity of this approach are unprecedented. And there are very few better inner game products out there.

I'm not an affiliate for this product, and I won't make any money from this review, but if you're interested in more information on TFM, check out www.Flawlessnatural.com.

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The Jeffy Show DVD

First off, I have to admit that I am not unbiased when it comes to Jeffy.. I've loved his writing for years. I also think it's a toss up between him and Fidelio as to who is the funniest person I have ever met. He also is probably the person I most identify with personality wise in the community. That said I am not being paid for this review, nor am I an affiliate of their product, and I haven't talked to Jeffy or TD about this review.

So I was super excited when I heard that he was going to be releasing his own product. There is hardly anything I can think of more entertaining than listening to Jeffy.

I can honestly say I came into this with high expectations and I was not disappointed.

The program starts off with Jeffy defining and researching the word “chode” with a poster board of various chode images. This was hysterical, and sums up Jeffy in a nutshell: words and humor + absurdity = Jlaix.

The first disc had the moment that made me fall off the couch laughing… Jeffy is describing this 300lb woman he used to fuck and the scenario in which it unfolded. One of the funniest stories I've ever heard, right up there with Fidelio's family story.

He then goes into the idea of getting your mind right. Inner game. All good stuff on here! Not anything you've never heard before if you've been in the community awhile, but it’s a great refresher and the stuff on codes of conduct was really great! The most interesting part to me was the idea of every set having a unique rhythm. I'd never thought about it like that, but when I heard it, it clicked with my new ideas about pacing and leading the interaction. You have to first know what their rhythm is, before you can attempt to change it. That's a key point for developing social skills: think about where THEY are at and how you can join them, before leading them where you want them to go.

Disc 2 We're going in

This disc had a bunch of technical stuff on it about fashion etc... It also has some funny stories about Superstar and a good look at the reasons to drink or not. He also goes over different opening styles. And what kind of Jeffy product would it be without a talk about karaoke and the benefits that has to your game. I agree with that btw as you are forced to project your voice and make yourself uncomfortable.

Disc 3 Take your Passion and make it happen

This disc starts off with Jeffy talking about canned material. Everyone knows my thoughts on this, so no need to reiterate those here. Jeffy makes some great points about not using canned material as a substitute for having a real personality. I also agree, which is why I have been pushing the bandwagon for the Jeet Kune Do approach of taking and mixing styles. I just call it not being dogmatic. Jeffy gives some great example stories. Then we get to hear some great stories about his time in Spain. Loved banging the chode.

Disc 4 Bringing it home

This disc was focused on closing the deal. The best part of this disc was hearing Jeffy do the famous “Weepy Air Supply Callback Technique”. I'd read about it on the internet, but hearing it is awesome! He covers some LMR stuff, getting girls home and then talks about threesomes and tandem pickup. I thought the threesome stuff dragged on a bit. I thought the best part of this disc after the Air Supply message, was the stuff on intent and discipline. These two things are like the vegetables on the plate with a fancy steak. They are often overlooked but necessary for the health of your game.

Disc 5 When all is said and done

This disc is a wrap up and serves to let Jeffy enlighten us as to what he has learned in his journey. I really like the focus he placed on ancillary skills and actually getting a life. That's something a lot of guys ignore and it's like the rocket fuel of game that makes women want to stay in your life. Finally, Jeffy talks about some things that happened with his family. I felt that this was the bravest thing he did in this entire program. Really powerful!

Overall I thought that this program was by far the most entertaining seduction program I have ever watched! I never had the dreaded zone out moment where I forgot to pay attention. I also think Jeffy should be commended for having the balls to put his life out there for examination, warts and all.

A +

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